Thursday, 26 April 2012

Getting down to beauty basics

Okay, so the next topic I promised myself I'd blog about is bridal hair and make-up...

Hairy moments

With the whole Mad Men theme in mind, I'd been Pinning any 1960s-esque hairstyles that caught my eye (okay, not those actual styles!), but I hadn't quite managed to find the exact picture of what I wanted.

Problem, it seemed to me, is that I don't have perfectly sleek hair (cards on the table: it's basically frizz central), and I don't have a fringe, which seem to be a feature in many of the 1960s-esque styles I liked, such as most of these:


The only style I liked that I thought my hair could be encouraged to do – after some hours with the straightening irons, coupled with tons of hairspray and hairgrips – was a tight chignon such as this one:


It's a bit less complex than some of the other styles I liked, plus no fringe required. Sorted!

The only niggle I had was whether it would look any good in real life...

Well, I had my hair trial two weekends ago, with the lovely Lynsey at The Vintage Salon in Birmingham, and within 45 minutes she had my long, frizzy, flyaway red hair teased, twisted, gripped and hairsprayed into... not exactly the style above, but an even better one!

The main change was at the front. I had asked for a swept over parting, with my hair covering part of my forehead, as I figured that was the closest I could get to a fringe. I'm probably not explaining that very well, but I mean something like this:


Well, she gave it a try and, to be frank, I looked like my uncle. Yep, apparently the whole sideswept look gives me a square face and an uncanny resemblance to a 60-year-old Irish builder. Cue moment of pure white terror. I had no hair plan B!

Not to worry, as it turned out. I hesitantly voiced my concerns to the hairdresser, mumbling "maybe once it's all finished...", as I thought she might somehow talk me into liking it. But in a flash she whipped that section of hair up into a fabulous Joan Holloway-style twist, lifting it off my face and instantly making me look 100 times better! It was that moment that I realised that forking out for my bridesmaids and me to have professional hairstylists on the day is worth every penny. Phew!

So that's the hair sorted: a beehive chignon with a twist! So what about make-up then?

Face off

Lovin' my Lily Lolo
First things first, I'm a mineral make-up convert. And I'm very loyal to the Lily Lolo brand, mainly because since using it my skin is almost always clear of the spots that I used to be plagued by when using liquid foundation.

Secondly, I'm pretty darn excellent at applying make-up. Other friends often ask if I'll do their eye make-up before we go out. I've even done friends' make-up for their wedding day. So I didn't see the point of booking a make-up artist for the day, especially as our budget is so tight.

That said, I know doing wedding make-up isn't as simple as slapping on a bit of foundation and mascara. This make-up has to last all day, and withstand countless squeezey hugs and kisses from family and friends. It also has to look good in daylight outside, as well as during flash photography inside.

So I did a bit of research. I actually struggled to find a definitive guide to bridal make-up perfection, but I did manage to pick up a bunch of helpful hints along the way. One tip that was said by many was: don't use mineral make-up. Doh!

Apparently, minerals often contain a large proportion of mica, which is highly reflective. That helps give an airbrush finish in real life, but in flash photography it can make you look very washed out. Once I read that, I realised that there had been a good few pics on nights out where I looked a little, dare I say, corpse-like and I hadn't understood why!

Okay, I didn't look as bad as this, but you get the idea!

Thing is, I'm pale anyway (my skin is a shade too fair for many 'high street' make-up brands) so I guess that plus the mica has been making me look super ghost-like when the flash hits me just right. And I really don't want to risk looking like that on the big day!

So I've been trying out some posh liquid make-up. (Posh because I'm trying to avoid anything that will aggravate my skin and turn me into a spotty teenager for the day.) Here's what I've found so far:

Estée Lauder's Double Wear foundation is, as the name suggests, long-lasting. But its lightest shade, no matter how much I blend it, is a shade too orange-y for me. So the search continues. I've been recommended Laura Mercier, but I'm not sure the pursestrings can stretch to that! I might try to get a consultation at a department store. Maybe they'll give me a free sample?

I also tried Estée Lauder's Disappear concealer, which is pretty good actually, though maybe a smidge too dark for me.

One bit of success though: Dior Skinflash is, in a word, magical.

I used to use YSL's Touche Eclat but found that it sat a bit pinky on my skin, if that makes any sense. Skinflash, though, melts in seamlessly and does a pretty great job of blending away dark shadows and wrinkles. Again, I'll need to be careful about flash photography because it's reflective, but I figure it will do nicely during the daytime and I can touch up with the Estée Lauder Disappear in the evening.

So make-up brands are almost sorted. Next task is to actually decide what kind of make-up I want on the day. I'm planning to do some practice when I'm with my girls at the hen do (in two weekends' time, hooray!) but for now here's some make-up styles that I have my eye on. I'll let you know how I get on!


PS As it's now past midnight, I can officially say... ONE MONTH FROM TODAY!

Sunday, 8 April 2012

Our Mad Men wedding

I wasn't born in the '60s, my parents weren't married in the '60s, and I've never really loved the Beatles or the Rolling Stones. Ditto my husband-to-be. So why pick the 1960s as the theme for our wedding?

'D448' by Alfred Sung
Well, it probably comes down to two things: falling in love with some beautiful bridesmaid dresses that look like they were made for Audrey Hepburn, along with me finally finding out what all the fuss was regarding Mad Men. Talk about amazing hair, outfits and, let's face it, Joan Holloway's general magnificence.

So we have a theme, great! However, I soon realised that bringing 1960s style into a tightly budgeted wedding set mainly in an early 20th century hotel building in Birmingham has its challenges.

When I first started looking for inspiration online, the few 1960s-inspired weddings I found had some amazing, stand-out touches, like being held at a retro recording studio or having a 1960s-era scooter as the wedding car. It seemed to me that all our location and budget could manage, bar the bridesmaid dresses, was hiring a 1960s limousine. Nice, but it's no powder blue Vespa...

As time (and research) went on, however, I realised we could bring in the styling through a variety of other ways, namely:

  • I used 1960s-era fonts in our stationery:
Honey Script (based on 1950s/1960s font Filmotype Honey)

and Eloquent (based on 1960s typeface Pistilli Roman):


  • We've hired The Vintage Salon to give the bridesmaids and me Mad Men-inspired hairstyles:


  • I'm having a 1950s/1960s-inspired wedding dress made:


  • The men aren't in 1960s clothing as such, but instead of old-fashioned cravats, cumberbunds and the like, they've got smart grey suits:


  • Finally, instead of a guest book and bog-standard white cardboard 'postbox', we'll have a 1960s vintage typewriter and suitcase. Okay, not the most original of ideas, particularly since the whole 1950s/1960s wedding styling seems to have really taken off. (The wedding blogs are now full of them!) But at least we've made an effort to add a bit of the era to our elegant-but-neutral venue. I haven't found a pic of exactly how I'd like this to look, but it'll be something similar to this:


So there you have it: Mad Men styling through our stationery, outfits, hair and a little bit of venue styling. Oh, and not forgetting that 1960s limousine!


With all that sorted, the only thing left to wonder is: will any of the guests notice?

Saturday, 7 April 2012

Enough of all the feelings nonsense

So I realised this week that, day to day, I get on with the business of planning this wedding, and (when I have the time and energy for it) I blog about how hectic/stressful/panicked it gets at times.

Okay, yes, I've done a few posts on practical things, like flowers and table plans, but mainly it's been a place to have a good old vent.

Nothing wrong with that I suppose, except - once I got a grip of my panic - I'd also hoped for this blog to be a way to record some of the more practical or fun aspects. So that's about to change.

And, as I'm a bit rubbish at sticking to my blogging promises, here in black and white (well, black and kind of peach) is what I plan to blog about next:

  • 1960s wedding styling
  • Hair and make-up
  • Shoes and accessories

It's a short list, granted, but it's a start!

PS Seven weeks today! :-o

Monday, 26 March 2012

Time waits for no bride

Two months today.

TWO months today.

Two MONTHS today!

I honestly can't quite believe it.

On the one hand, the months of wedding planning alongside a full-on, full-time job have been, frankly, stressful. It can be hard to remember what life was even like before I had this giant task on my hands. (As you'll see, I'm often still saying me/my/I because, as helpful as H2B has been more recently, he's still a passenger in this whole journey. I am most definitely the driver.)

On the other hand, the time has flown by. It doesn't feel like almost a year. I mean, I still can't make up my mind on things like bridesmaids accessories and favours, for heaven's sake! Surely those things should be clear in my head by now?

Still, indecision has been a constant theme of my wedding planning experience, so I shouldn't be surprised. Besides, I'm enjoying picking out the fun stuff, now that we finally have the money for the reception saved up. Pay days are now for wedding spending instead of saving. Heaven! Though I must be driving our receptionist at work potty with all the eBay, BHS and Debenhams deliveries that keep arriving.

Shopping heaven aside, it really is getting all a bit too real for my comfort levels. Picking out readings and processional music. Going to dress fittings. Getting RSVPs through the door every other day. (By the way, call me simple, but I'm loving that my carefully designed postcards are actually being used as real, stamped postcards. Stylish and functional, oh yes.)

I guess what I'm saying is that this wedding really has taken on a life of its own. It's out there, it's happening, and we have countless guests and suppliers to answer to. There's no going back now.

Not that I want to. It's not that. It just links back to one of my first points. I can't really remember what life was like before all this. Whatever will I do with myself when it's all said and done?

Monday, 5 March 2012

Too busy to be a bride-to-be!

Sorry for the radio silence, folks.

I really do want to write my blog. It's less than three months to go until the big day, and I want to continue noting what I'm up to and how I've been feeling. Believe me, I have plenty of material!

But work has gone, in a word, mental. Stressful doesn't even cover it. And it's made me realise I was already operating with a baseline level of stress from the wedding, because my brain is waaaay more overloaded than it would be normally. As a result, I just don't have the time or energy to write a proper post just now.


So, partly as a stop-gap and partly as a reminder to myself for later, here are some key words of weddingness to sum up the last few weeks (and hint at some of my stresses!):

  • Printer ruined our invites
  • Priest made a horrible comment
  • Diet = one step forward, two steps back, one step forward... ad infinitum
  • Wedding envy returned
  • Sick and tired of having no money!

I think that's it for now. Promise I'll be back as soon as I can. x